Jumping In Fast to a New Relationship Can Overlook the Red Flags!

Susan McCord
5 min readMar 28, 2022
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It is so easy to jump into a new relationship when you feel a powerful connection and chemistry with someone! I mean, how often does that really happen today? When someone says all the right things and wants to see you 24/7 it feels pretty good, right?

The trouble with this is, anyone can be amazing for a short period of time, and they can actually really mean what they say in the beginning. The big problem with a really fast love attraction is that these relationships typically end just as fast. This happens a lot when the sex is super hot from the first few dates! It can lure you in under a false pretense.

There is way too much pressure when you put each other on this pheromone pedestal.

If you both really like each other, slow things down. Spending all your time together isn’t realistic. It is setting your relationship up to fizzle out because of the expectations you both have for things to be great all the time.

When someone loves-bombs you in the beginning, showering you with compliments, gifts, excessive date planning, and wanting to see you all the time, it can feel very enticing! They just might be the one you’ve been waiting for! You become addicted to this exciting phase of a new partnership and get lured into all the hoopla that isn’t often real or long-lasting.

No one can keep this behavior up for long and when the intensity dissipates as the days or weeks go by, they lose interest because there isn’t the same caliber of sexual chemistry. Having a reciprocated emotional and intellectual connection is what keeps a relationship flourishing, and the way to have this is by getting out of the bedroom, sharing other intimate moments. You need to be able to really talk and also laugh with each other.

Set a nice pace where you can court each other, and build a reciprocated trust. You need time to see who they really are.

  • How do they treat other people?
  • Are they emotionally open and available?
  • Is your relationship-driven mainly by sex?
Susan McCord

Susan McCord (Dear Sybersue) Helps Men & Women Find Love! She is a Certified Dating & Relationship Coach, Author & Advice Columnist. https://www.sybersue.com